INDIVIDUAL

I work most effectively with people who identify with one or more of the following statements:

 

• I'm holding back

• I crave transformation

• I struggle to "turn it off" 

• I have experiences with the numinous

• My relationships drain me

• I can’t identify my needs so I'll focus on what you want

• I suffer in isolation

• I feel "not from here" 

• Life is exhausting

• It's easier to put other people first

• I can’t move my life in the direction I want

• I feel helpless

• I feel "other"

• I feel alone

• I feel music deeply

• I know I have a soul

• I am a survivor, but I can not seem to thrive

• I have a rich fantasy world

• I can sense the feelings of others

• I can not slow down

• I feel out of body at times

• I am secretive

• I feel responsible for making people love me

• I am not sure if my childhood was difficult

• I don’t feel like myself lately

• I feel lost

• I have a feeling there's more inside of me to discover 

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My specialities include

• Codependency and Attachment-Related Issues

•  Issues specific to those assigned female at Birth

• LGBTQI issues/Gender Identity

• Childhood abuse and neglect 

• Highly Sensitive People (HSP)

• Depression and Anxiety

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More specifically...

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Do you have an adept ability to flex and bend to the needs of your environment? Do you struggle to identify and prioritize your own needs? Are your goals and dreams collecting dust while you compulsively tend to those around you? A finely tuned childhood survival strategy, codependency leaves many feeling a complex array of emotions in their adulthood: emptiness, resentment, loneliness, creative atrophy, and confusion. Your personal wishes become off-limits, you hide from others and you hide from yourself. 

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We are all shaped by our families, cultures and places of origin. We inherit a toolbox for life. Some of our tools feel useful and some of our tools no longer serve us. Yet after decades of hard wiring, we struggle, despite our best efforts, to put the outdated tools down. We try to trick ourselves into different behaviors, white knuckle our way through cravings, read one self-help book after another, and exhaust every Brene Brown podcast available, but our reactions to people, places, events and things continue to feel automatic and out of our control, leaving us feeling ashamed and hopeless. Dominated by familiar thoughts and projections about ourselves and others, our lives, our decisions, and our relationships keep circling back to the same dissatisfying places. We feel...no, we know that we are missing out on this living opportunity. 

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When our learned patterns of protection and survival, although safe and familiar, begin to feel prohibitive and even destructive, we seek counseling. 

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I encourage you to browse my website, and see if anything I’ve written feels relevant to you. That’s usually a good start in finding the right therapist.